love v/s infatuation

Are you really in love? Or do you think that you are in love?

There is a big difference between Love and infatuation. Some people can't tell the difference, thinking they are in love but really it is a deep infatuation. Infatuation is instant desire - one set of glands calling to another.

Love is friendship that has caught fire. It takes root and grows, one day at a time.

Infatuation is marked by a feeling of insecurity. You are excited and eager, but not genuinely happy.
There are nagging doubts, unanswered questions, little bits and pieces about your beloved that you would just as soon not examine too closely. It might spoil the dream.

Love is the quiet understanding and mature acceptance of imperfection. It is real. It gives you strength and grows beyond you - to bolster your beloved. You are warmed by their presence, even when they are away.

Miles do not separate you. You have so many wonderful little films in your head that you keep replaying.
But near or far, you know they are yours, and you can wait.

Infatuation says, "We must get married right away. I can't risk losing them."
Love says, "Be patient. Don't panic. Plan your future with confidence."
Infatuation has an element of sexual excitement. Whenever you are together, you hope it will end in intimacy.

Love is not based on sex. It is the maturation of friendship, which makes sex so much sweeter. You must be friends before you can be lovers.

Infatuation lacks confidence. When they're away, you wonder if they're cheating. Sometimes, you check.

Love means trust. You are calm, secure and unthreatened. They feel your trust, and it makes them even more trustworthy.

Infatuation might lead you to do things you will regret, but love never steers you in the wrong direction.

Love is an upper. It makes you feel whole. It completes the circle. It fills the empty space in your heart.
Love is elevating. It lifts you up. It makes you look up. It makes you think up.
It makes you a better person than you were before. If you have love in your life, it can make up for a great many things you don't have. If there is no love in your life, whatever else there is has a lot less meaning. The secret of our being is not only to live but to have something to live for.

INFATUATION

Infatuation is a feeling; real love involves a commitment also. Infatuation is just love of emotion. Real love, though, is love of devotion. Only the emotions are affected in infatuation, but in real love both the emotions and the will are involved. Next, a person "fall into" infatuation, but "grows into" real love.

Guys, have you ever seen a girl who was so beautiful that you thought you'd faint?
This is infatuation! It is based totally on physical attraction. often you don't know much in-depth about the person you so-called love. Thus, infatuation is mostly biological. Also remember, never tell a girl you love her, unless you are willing to marry her.

Then, infatuation is basically selfish where real love is basically selfless.Infatuatio n is more interested in satisfying yourself and the feeling than it is in the other person.

Real love is primarily interested in the other person. It seeks to give instead of get.. Love unselfishly seeks the highest good for the other person.

Lastly, infatuation is weakened by time and separation where real love is strengthened by time and separation.
This does not mean that there will be no pain in separation. On the contrary, there is great pain in separation if
you are truly in love.

LOVE

Now you know what is infatuation, we will go on to discuss about the details of a true love. Love is patient. The word translated "patient" means to wait patiently for the fulfilment of expectations.

When you have difficulty dating this girl and she does not want to come out, if you truly love her, you will not complain and blame her, you must look at the situation from her point of view - maybe she is having some problems which prevented her from coming out. You must react to it with patience and understanding.

Next, have you ever met someone you liked so much that you wanted to push the relationship and make it progress faster? Sure you have! Love, however, is willing to give a relationship time to grow at a natural pace.
It does not push but is willing to wait for the relationship to grow at a rate that is satisfactory to both parties.
Love is Kind Love seeks to encourage and build up others. It respects the feelings and emotions of others..
It finds its greatest satisfaction in making others happy.

You can do the following:

1. Give one another things such as gifts and encouragement cards.

2. Compliment one another. Magnify the other party's strength.

3. Listen to one another. Pay close attention to what each of you has to say and make each other feel that what each says is important.

4. Treat one another special in public. Compliment and encourage one another sincerely in the presence of others.

5. Love is Not Jealous. Jealousy usually indicates an insecure and immature heart. Love wants the best for others, but jealousy is possessive. Jealous is reflected in the childish statement, "If he is going to talk to her, then he can just forget
about me!" Often, one person wants to totally possess the other and to restrict her relationships with others.

6. Love is not about bragging. Love is not a windbag and is not anxious to impress. Often a guy will brag to a girl, trying to impress her so that she will like him. A truly great person, however, does not need to exalt himself! Others will exalt him.

7. Love is Not Arrogant. Love is not conceited, boastful,cocky, or stuck-up. Love, instead, is humble and has a servant attitude. Sometimes, a guy may come across to a girl with an "I can take you or leave you" attitude. His demeanour implies, "You ought to be thankful that somebody as neat as me is dating you." Of course, this is not love.

8. Love always covers. This word cover means to pass over in silence, to keep confidential.

9. Love is patient with the faults of others. It doesn't criticise and broadcast to the world the faults of others.
Love is there even when it knows the other is not perfect.

10. Love always Perseveres. Love always stands its ground and hold out. It will outlast anything. It will even love in the face of unrequited love. Real love will last though all sorts of trials, tribulations and stresses.

11. Love is Not Provoked. This means that love has a long fuse. It does not become irritated and angry. It is not easily offended.

12. Love does not seek its own. This is the heart of love. Love is other-centred rather than self- centred. Love says, "I love you, I want to give to you." Selfishness says, "I love you, I want you!"

13. Love does not act unbecomingly. This means that love does not behave disgracefully, dishonourably or indecently. It does not embarrass others by its action. It is characterised by tact and sensitivity. This also means that love should have good manner. Be sure to do little things like opening doors for your girl, or offering her your arm when you walk together.

14. Lastly, Love is forgiving. This is a MUST for a successful love story. If a guy is not willing to forgive and forget when his girlfriend is one hour late, he is not exhibiting love. Love doesn't hold grudges when it has been
wronged. It doesn't remain resentful.

** Remember this: Love forgets past failures and sins. **

Love of a Lifetime

Once upon a time there was a teacher and his student lay down under the big tree near the big grass area. Then suddenly the student asked the teacher,

Student : Teacher, I'm confused how we find our soul mate. Can you please help me?
Teacher : "Silent for few second, than he answer" Well, it's pretty hard and easy question..
Student : "THINK HARD" Ha???
Teacher : Look on that way, there are a lot of grass there, why don't you walk there but please never walk backward, just walk straight ahead. On your way, try to find a beautiful grass and pick it up then give it to me. But just one.
Student : Well, ok then... wait for me... "Walk straight ahead to the grass field"

A few minutes later...
Student : I'm back..

Teacher : Em, well I don't see any beautiful grass on your hand.
Student : On my journey, I found few beautiful grass, but I thought that I would find a better one, so I didn't pick it up. But I didn't realize that I'm in the end of the field, and I hadn't pick any. Cause you told me not to go back, so I didn't go back.
Teacher : That's what happened in real life.

What is the message of this story?

* Grass --> is people around you
* Beautiful Grass --> is people that attract you
* Grass Field --> is time

In looking for your soul mate, please don't always compare and hope that there will be a better one. By doing that, you'll waste your lifetime, cause remember "Time Never Goes Back".... So try to accept what he/she is.

ESG pledges ramps for disabled people

PANAJI, 23 May: The Entertainment Society of Goa (ESG) has assured that the Marquinez Palace and Inox multiplex will be made disabled–friendly, said Avelino de Sa, president of the Disability Rights Association of Goa (DRAG), on Friday.

Addressing a press conference, de Sa informed that DRAG has managed to get the ESG to provide access for disabled people and senior citizens at the Marquinez Palace on a temporary basis.

The Marquinez Palace and Inox mulitplex were not accessible to disabled people as mandated under Section 44 of the Persons with Disabilities Act, 1995 and Article 9 of the UN Convention of the Rights of Persons with Disabilities, de Sa said.

"The ESG had promised to provide access for disabled persons at the Marquinez Palace and Inox multiplex by March 31. When they did not comply even by April 30, DRAG filed a contempt petition before the disability commissioner and met the chief secretary Hauzel Haukhum on the issue," the DRAG president said.

" DRAG is also working to get a lift installed at the venue, further we are asking that the Inox multiplex be made disabled friendly at the earliest," de Sa said.

DRAG has also written to the secretary (legislature), and expressed its surprise that the meetings of the ad–hoc committees are being held at places which are not accessible to disabled people and senior citizens.

Meanwhile, DRAG also informed that the Reserve Bank of India has issued a notification directing all scheduled commercial banks to make their branches and ATM machines easily accessible for disabled people.

India Deaf Girl to World Miss Deaf 2009 Contests at Prague 27-May-2009

Miss Deaf World 2009 contest will be held at Prague in the Czech Republic from 1st to 12th July 2009 and organised by Crech Modal Management of International Miss Deaf is associated with DEAF LEADERS for representation of Indian girl contest.




DEAF LEADERS selected a Deaf Girl called Ms. Mamta Singh from Indore, Madhaya Pradesh for World Miss Deaf 2010 contest. She is very brilliant and student B. Com in 2nd year. India Miss Deaf girl of Ms. Mamta and company of Mrs. Moncia (Teacher) will go abroad to Prague on 1st July 2009.

World Miss Deaf will provide free flight for one girl contest and free food and lodge for One girl contest and Compnay.



We are congrats them to Prague

Mammoths

Ice Baby
A near-perfect frozen mammoth resurfaces after 40,000 years, bearing clues to a great vanished species.
By Tom Mueller
Photograph by Francis Latreille
The mammoth herd approaches the rushing river. A calf ambles close to her mother's huge legs, brushing their long, glossy hair now and then with her trunk. The sky is brilliant blue, and a dry wind hisses through the grasses, which billow like oceanic swells across a steppe 1o,ooo miles wide, spanning the northern arc of the Ice Age world. The long winter is over; birdsong and the scent of damp loam fill the air.
Perhaps the warmth of the sun makes the mother careless, and for a moment she loses track of her calf. The baby wanders toward the water. She stumbles on the slippery riverbank and slides into a slurry of clay, sand, and fresh snowmelt. She struggles to free herself, but every movement drags her deeper. The mud gets in her mouth, her trunk, her eyes; disoriented, she gasps for breath but gets a mouthful of muck instead. Coughing, gagging, caught in a riptide of panic, she makes a dreadful high-pitched shriek that brings her mother running. Inhaling with all her force, the calf sucks the mud deep into her trachea, sealing her lungs. By the time her mother reaches the bank, the baby is partially submerged in the ice-cold mire and flailing feebly, rapidly sliding into shock. The mother screams and mills on the soft bank, drawing the rest of the herd. As they watch, the calf sinks beneath the surface.

Brief Change of Scenery

Amidst the news reading, the science reading, the advocating, the policy making, and the rallies against injustice, sometimes there can be--no, there must be--a moment of quiet, a break-point in the urgency. Time for something to balance the rage. Time for something that is done for no reason other than because it brings joy.

Yesterday Elesia and I took a retreat from the city to work on our upcoming presentation at the Oregon Disability Megaconference (for the curious, we're presenting on self-advocacy for people, particularly autistic and deaf, who use alternative forms of communication). We drove an hour and a half to Oceanside and bee-lined, not for the benches where we could have spread out our pens and notes and gotten down to serious work, but bee-lined for the beaches.

We slipped through sea caves, stood transfixed by water rushing over sand, and (always my favorite) sorted stones along the shore, searching for bits of agate, finding treasures lost to those many who lack our fantastic eye for detail. We found life in every crevice of seemingly bare stone, poked a stinky jellyfish piece, and rocked in dizzying delight staring up at a huge flock of seagulls racing so close directly overhead that we could feel the breeze of their wings.

The ocean has always been one of my best places, something that soothes and sets me back to center, even at my most worn, enraged, or despairing. The ocean always brings me joy.

While we probably would have accomplished more on the presentation had we stayed within greater Portland, we accomplished far more (and far more needed) "work" yesterday in the way of happiness, friendship, and pleasure.

It's important to remember that a high quality of life includes time for the things we love, for things that are done just for their own delightful sake, not for any objective, or goal, or measure.

Photo note: Photo with this story taken by me on the Oceanside beach yesterday.

Please watch the programme of political parties

Please watch the programme of political parties that show their manifest to vote for one big political party to take majority govt for next five years .Please avoid voting for coalition govt for short term as carefully .you should think firstly and then vote casting than IPL matches very importantly.... Vote for BJP....